Social Proof (p.I)

People ask me how am I so confident in myself even when facing the odds. Whether I am tasked with talking to strangers, selling a product, getting on stage to perform or speak I'm always commanding attention. When I walk the street people peep because they know me, know of me, or just like my white glasses. When I party I'm always gravitating to others or having people gravitate towards me.

How?

Social Proof

What is social proof?

Social proof is being able to walk into a room and do what?

Command the attention of others.

It seems like we’re always trying to find social proof. There are some guys who’ll make a big thing of walking into a bar with two women.

Even though most the time these women are just his friends, it creates social proof that “women like me”.

We try to create social proof on Facebook by putting up pictures of ourselves with women, or at venues having fun.

When we go to a business meeting we always seem to shake the hand of the powerful person in the room. Why? Because it suggests we’re somehow connected to them which creates… you guessed it… social proof.

Social proof is all about inner confidence and connecting with people.

When you go out into the world I think it’s important to realize you’re not going to conquer the world in one day. I have to remember that myself.

So your probably wondering
"How do I turn things around?"

I realized I needed to build my social proof one block at a time. Think of it like building a skyscraper.  Every single day I made sure I got to meet one person.  It didn’t matter whether it was a man, a woman, or a child.

I was going to gain social proof wherever I went.  A lot of you want the magic tool and the short cut.  You want the instant social proof.  You don’t want to do the building.

With me my social proof exists because every day I go out and I’m friendly to everybody I meet. I have friends everywhere and when people sees me they see me as somebody who is enjoying their life.

Somebody who actually loves life and has tons of energy.

Because if you look around most people aren’t full of life.
Most people walk around looking unhappy.
Spend today looking around at people.  Look at their energy, the way they smile, the way they hold themselves.

Ask yourself these questions…

Who would you rather be, the person that smiles or the person that walks around with a frown on their face?

Who would you rather look at and approach, the person who smiles or the person with a frown on their face?

Social proof is all about looking presentable whether physically and emotionally. Don't fret over "well I'm usually depressed or..I'm usually etc." Start exercising your brain into some healthy practices, weed the stress out of your life and focus more on making yourself happy.

So try it out,
Be present with everybody you speak to.

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